Dreams have a way of evolving as we do, often in unexpected and challenging ways. It’s easy to scroll through perfectly curated images online and believe everyone else’s dreams are seamless and successful. But the reality? Dreams can shift, require recalibration, and sometimes demand a courageous pivot.
Hi, I’m L, and I help women who want more out of life create wealth and ease by listening to their inner wisdom and living their dreams.
Today, I’m sharing a deeply personal story about a dream I worked hard to bring to life—moving to Rwanda in 2022—and how I navigated its unexpected twists and turns. If you’ve ever wondered how to keep moving forward when your dream feels like it’s falling apart, this article is for you.
In January 2022, I moved to Rwanda, inspired by its peace, beauty, and potential. Armed with a 10-year visa and a deep sense of intention, I planned to make Kigali my home. I had done extensive research, spoken with others who thrived there, and even visited to ensure it aligned with my vision. Yet, despite my preparation, living in Rwanda didn’t meet my deeper needs in the ways I had hoped.
What I discovered was that dreams often look different in reality than they do in our imagination. For me, it was a combination of unexpected loneliness, cultural differences, and a medical crisis that ultimately led me to leave Rwanda and recalibrate my vision. These challenges weren’t failures—they were powerful feedback guiding me toward a deeper understanding of what I truly needed to thrive.
When dreams don’t unfold as planned, it can feel like a loss, but the truth is, every step of the journey holds valuable lessons. Here are the four biggest takeaways from my experience in Rwanda that might help you realign with your dreams.
Dreams aren’t fixed destinations—they’re processes. As you grow, your dreams grow too, reflecting your evolving desires and needs. Rwanda taught me the importance of community and belonging—essentials I hadn’t fully considered before moving. Allow your dreams to shift as you gather more information and understanding.
Preparation is vital, but sometimes you don’t know what you need until you’re in the experience. Ask specific questions about your dream—what support systems will you need? What are your non-negotiables? For me, the lack of an inviting community and the absence of robust social networks made settling in Kigali difficult. Doing deeper introspection beforehand might help you identify gaps you didn’t initially consider.
Dreams require a foundation of support, whether that’s financial stability, emotional resources, or community connections. When my health crisis forced me to leave Rwanda, my support system—including a GoFundMe campaign—allowed me to recalibrate and receive the care I needed. Build a safety net that aligns with your unique circumstances and values.
Walking away from a dream that no longer serves you isn’t failure; it’s courage. Staying in Rwanda out of pride or the sunk cost fallacy would have delayed my ability to move forward. The sooner you acknowledge a misalignment, the faster you can refine your vision and redirect your energy toward a new path.
Realigning with your dream doesn’t always require a massive leap. Instead, small, intentional steps—what I call micro movements—can help you move closer to your vision over time. Here are some reflective questions and actions to consider:
Every experience, even the ones that don’t go as planned, contributes to your growth. Leaving Rwanda wasn’t a failure—it was a stepping stone toward greater clarity about what I need to live fully. The lessons I learned will inform my next chapter as I plan my next destination with a refined understanding of what it takes for me to thrive.
If you’re feeling stuck or unsure about your next steps, I’d love to help you realign with your vision. Schedule a one-on-one Insight Hour call with me, where we’ll refine your dreams, identify actionable steps, and ensure you’re moving in alignment with your inner wisdom.
Remember, your dreams are unfolding in real-time. Nothing is wasted, and everything you’ve experienced is valuable. Trust yourself, honor your journey, and keep moving forward with grace.
Ready to take inspired action? Schedule your Insight Hour call today to start creating your dream life—your way.
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